that's the motto for now
four kids are a lot
four kids are a lot when your reference is two kids, and a clean house, and both parents at work, and kids in school
four kids keep me counting them up every time we go out: am I missing one? They do not run away, they are good kids, but there is that feeling that I am forgetting someone
We are all adjusting here. I am making space in my heart and physical space in the house for another one. The older kids are making changes for another brother.
I am giving it six months to get any semblance of life. This might not be generous enough, but, by keeping the expectations low, it is easier to function rather than expecting perfect functioning from the start.
forgive the rambling here, it might be easier to read sometime in the middle of the night, when you are bleary-eyed
hang in there
this, too, shall pass