tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330094970861530581.post8177052693729563085..comments2023-04-26T11:58:32.396-04:00Comments on Breathing Space: Conflict of interestbreathingspacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08660982658933603531noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330094970861530581.post-4363967586045769662018-01-30T19:30:43.187-05:002018-01-30T19:30:43.187-05:00Oh, this is so painful. I was cheering when he wa...Oh, this is so painful. I was cheering when he was willing to try it out with you. And it makes so much sense why he is backing out now. He was feeling bad about himself (great idea to have him come and sit and read a comic book), and then he fell behind, and now he's too behind--in his mind, how can he possibly "catch up?" It's too much. I wonder if I as an adult, thrown into something outside of my comfort zone, feeling vulnerable and bad about an external situation, and then missing 2 classes in an area where I am already feeling insecure, would be able to be strong enough to continue.<br />It's so, so frustrating. It might have been so grand.<br />On the other hand, it might just be a great lightning rod for conflict because it's something you want so very much and he has his own day-to-day feelings about himself and his activities.<br />I'd just ask him every week if he wants to come, and leave him home if he doesn't. It's your time, and you love it. If he wants to join you, embrace him. If he doesn't, protect your precious time. Offer him to read a book quietly in the class, if he wants to do that. Sunk cost.<br />And it's really cool about your new chutzpadik self! I love it!arijesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04054624664476807741noreply@blogger.com